Sometimes I get really annoyed with my iPod. Not for the reason that you might expect one to dislike a piece of technology (because it’s not the “latest model”, or “doesn’t work right”). My iPod isn’t a super new, flying off the shelves model, but it works just fine.

The reason I get annoyed with it is because the shuffle setting can’t read my mind.

I don’t mean that literally (although, really: it’s 2014, and with all the technological advances we’ve had, mind-reading iPods aren’t a reality?!). What I mean is that it often plays songs I don’t want to hear at that moment. This often happens, and yet: I often let the songs play through.

Or at least, I used to. Then I discovered the immense amount of satisfaction I received from shuffling to find a new song that I liked better. This is such a small thing, but it got me thinking about the power that we all have over our own lives, and the influence we can have.

People complain a lot. I started off this post with a complaint. Sometimes we complain about things we can’t change – the seemingly never-ending cold weather, or our ridiculous allergies that the polar vortex has only worsened (and in these cases, we just have to suck it up, and put on an extra jacket, or take some allergy pills). But sometimes, we complain about things that we can change. And I don’t think that those complaints are valid.

Why should I complain about the shuffle feature on my iPod, when I am fully capable of picking a song to listen to? Why should people complain, worry about, or stress out over things that are totally in their control?

It’s a simple question with a complex answer. The truth is, no one really knows what they are doing in life. We have an idea of what we’re “supposed” to be doing, and maybe an idea of what we are doing, but really, we’re all just making it up as we go, even if we think we’re following a plan formed in our heads.

Some people are better at better at faking their confidence than others. Why? Because they know that things are under their control. They know that they might complain, or feel stressed, but that everything they are worrying about is completely in their control. And I think that this is a trait of success. Successful people have learned to focus on what they can control, and to let go of the things they can’t.

Of course successful people feel stressed. We’re all human, no matter what our net worth (or more importantly, self worth) is. But people who are truly successful  know that eventually, they will have everything under control – even if they don’t always feel that way.